songs for the pain


October 6-27, 2019

There’s something about music that resonates with all of us – especially when it comes to dealing with the most difficult and painful parts of our lives. Musicians have been putting words to our pain for as long as any of us can remember. Songs have a way of easing the burdens we carry. When people are sad, they turn to music. The Psalms have been the hymn book for God’s people throughout the centuries.

Psalms is a collection of 150 of God’s greatest hits with all kinds of situations in mind. The Psalms are so powerful because they are God’s people expressing back to Him in very real and raw terms how they are feeling. They give us permission to lament and mourn. There is a Psalm for all of life’s hurts. We will look at songs for the pain of depression, loss, betrayal, and confession. Our goal is to learn to turn to the Psalms to put our emotions in order. The Psalmists always teach us that our real-life emotions – especially the painful ones – are meant to direct us to the Lord. They remind us that our hope is in God alone and not in some other fix.

The Psalms remind us that God is our refuge and our strength – a very present help in times of trouble. He is our protector and our avenger. He deals with our enemies in ways that we never could. And He never gives up on us. God is in this with us and we are in this together.

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Series Schedule

DateScriptureBig Idea
10/06/19Psalm 42Pain of depression
10/13/19Psalm 6Pain of loss
10/20/19Psalm 3Pain of betrayal
10/27/19Psalm 51Pain of confession

Groups/Classes Currently Offered at
Family Church


1101 South Flagler Drive, West Palm Beach 33401
  • Forgiveness: Breaking the Power of the Past
    Wednesdays | 6:30 pm
  • GriefShare
    Wednesdays | 6:30 pm
  • Breaking through the Pain: When the Pain of Life Isn’t Fair
    Sundays | 11:00 am
  • DivorceCare
    Sundays | 9:00 am
  • Core Healing from Trauma Workshop
    October 26 | 1:30 pm
  • GriefShare Surviving the Holidays Seminar
    November 20 | 6:30 pm


4901 PGA Boulevard, Palm Beach Gardens 33418
    • Life Recovery: A Biblical Guide Through the 12 Steps
      Wednesdays | 6:30 pm
    • Boundaries (Recovery)
      Thursdays | 7:00 pm
    • Exploring Today’s Struggles
      Sundays | 11:15 am
    • Surviving Infertility
      Every other Wednesday | 7:30 pm
      email ebpxreubqr626@lnubb.pbz for location
    • Be Anxious for Nothing (Women)
      Wednesdays | 6:30 pm
    • Grief Share Surviving the Holidays Seminar
      November 17 | 12:30 pm


8657 Lantana Road, Lake Worth 33467
    • Stronger: Single Moms Groups
      Wednesdays | 5:00 pm


3600 Village Boulevard, West Palm Beach 33407
      • Esther: Trusting God When He Seems Silent (Women)
        Wednesdays | 6:30 pm

Palm Beach County Christian Counselors

BOCA RATON(561) 218-1798
Spanish River Counseling(561) 241-9014
Lexie Bell, MS, LMHC(561) 600-8764
Gateway Counseling Center
Dr. John Hawkins and team
(561) 332-1818
Marti Wibbels, MS, LMHC, CCTP,
(561) 620-0089
Dr. John Abuso, LMFT(561) 602-8939
Dr. J. Michael Atwater,
(561) 694-1887
Nathan J. Oliver, LMHC
Amy Oliver, LMFT
(561) 622-1107
Leslie R. Smith, LMHC(561) 628-3916
Julie Harren Hamilton (561) 312-7041
Paige Fant, LCSW, MCAP, ICADC(561) 324-8346
Connie Ingram, LMHC(561) 792-9242
Danielle Roginski, LCSW(561) 779-6711
Karen Brown, LMFT(561) 644-7134

Fighting the Darkness with the Light…

By Angel Turbeville

***Note: I originally wrote this post in 2014.  It was in response to a series of losses we experienced at the church I was ministering at.  Over the past 5 years, I can say that I am in a much better place, but I struggled for years.  God is faithful. I am re-posting as a resource to our current sermon series.****

As I look around at the world we live in, some days it feels like it is totally falling apart. One of the most devastating losses is death due to suicide. Can there be enough hope to break through to those souls struggling to hold onto life itself? I believe there is. I think the church needs to understand a little more, and I hope taking my mask off might help.

Depression and the overwhelming darkness and despair that it brings strikes those who claim their salvation in God, just as hard, maybe even harder, as those who do not profess faith in Christ. I know that many in the church want to help, but they do not understand the complexity of how to be in transformational community with those who battle depression.

Here’s my take from a heart that knows:

In many ways, I believe the battlefield of the physical darkness of the mind, is compounded for the Christian. Satan knows that if he can make us lose hope, we are rendered powerless from God’s kingdom. Depression is not foreign to me. I have watched many I love battle and even more devastating, stop fighting. I battle. I am a believer. I KNOW Christ. I know His love. I know the power of the cross. I minister to others. I share His hope. I speak truth even on the days when my heart is dark with despair. In the past, I’ve battled waves of anxiety and panic attacks. Thankfully, those have lessened. Because of the devastating depth of how broken my heart is, my past has even included begging God to take me to heaven. I’ve let a few close to me know the level of my pain, but for the most part, I’ve painted on the face I know I’m supposed to have and soldier on. Healing has occurred, but I still have days/weeks of struggles. In those times, eventually God’s light does break through. I’ll go from a heavy cloud of oppression to a realization of the hope that is at work within me. However, despite my constant prayer, God has not totally healed me.

God, in His gentle sovereign way, has taught me how to fight this darkness. I have taken practical steps—I have been in counseling for six years. I have tried medication, but unfortunately for me, aside from helping me through crisis points, this has not been a good ongoing solution. I know the battle is easier if I manage my diet, exercise and sleep. I try to do that.

Spiritual transformation happens in the light of community....

The few who know my battle are the dear friends who consistently love me through the dark. In the past couple of years the most healing has happened because of those within the church that I have been able to trust. They are the ones who persist. They know my patterns. They recognize when I am going into hiding or not being honest about my heart. They call me out. They sit in the despair with me and pray. They check in with me, text me verses, email me and are not afraid of my dark. Some of them have their own struggle and those who know deep pain have been able to penetrate to places that others can’t. However, the friends that most amaze me are those who don’t share this or a similar battle, but still schlep into the dark completely relying on God to navigate the right words or actions. What are some practical actions you can take if you have people in your life who are battling depression, or for that matter, any pain that you have no idea how to relate to?

1. Be There

Be a consistent presence in their lives. This does not mean lecturing them on how to change their thoughts or refocusing them on “positive” thinking. It does mean pointing them to Scripture that affirms the despair of their hearts. Wrestling through where they are with God and praying with them and for them. My deepest “knowing God” moments have been the times when I have been able to apply the truth of His character to the depravity of my heart.

2. Persevere

In the worst times of despair, we disconnect. The pain drives us into hiding because “no one understands.” We believe many lies including that we are “totally alone” and “no one cares.” Even as believers, these thought patterns creep in. Outside of crisis points, have honest conversations to find out what is helpful when this level of despair hits. Open yourself up to be available via text or phone—anytime day or night. Does this level of care scare you? It shouldn’t. For the believer who is truly battling and seeking God’s work of redemption in their lives, this will not turn into co-dependence. It will be a mark of authentic community and the bearing up of one another’s burdens.

3. Be willing to ask the hard questions

Understand specifically the trigger points that ignite moments of despair. For those you are in close community with, make sure they are keeping safeguards in place to manage their reactions.

4. Affirm and love

At our deepest levels, God created us for intimate relationship. We need to be free to let go of shame and be embraced by love. Shame comes with this struggle. Satan is whispering the lies of “where is your God right now?”, “you are serving Him and ministering to others, look at the fraud you are right now” and any other lie he can think of in attempt to disable God’s redemptive work. Do not add to the shame with a spirit of condemnation. Identify the lies and answer them with Truth from God’s Word.

5. Pray and rely on the Holy Spirit

Those who deeply struggle with depression and mental illness have needs and thirsts that are insatiable. We can only be redeemed through His Living Water. Our community must be built with those who will not retreat in hurt, but will strive to understand and love through the power of the cross.

6. Recognize when practical help is needed in addition to spiritual

For those who battle this deeply, there is a need for professional counseling and other resources. However, even in those cases, the five points above STILL apply. A counselor is not community for the Christian. The body of Christ MUST take steps to understand how to engage with one another so that we are living the Gospel victoriously. 1 Thessalonians 5 is a beautiful picture of what the church should be doing. We need to realize that we have not been lost in the darkness of this world, and we need to encourage each other to live as children of light. In vs. 14 the command is given to comfort the “feebleminded”. The word actually means “small-souled” and in context indicates one who is despondent. Are we in close enough community with each other to know the size of our souls?

Are our lives prioritized around our agendas or knowing and loving others in a way that is transformational and exhibits a taste of the love we have received through Christ on the cross. Let’s get there. Let’s be patient, know each other at the soul-level, and love deeply as Christ has loved us. Simple statements that call for bold living.

Past Sermon Series Resources

Come To The Table

Come To The Table Sermon Series


September 8 – 29

What does hospitality look like? Hospitality is not an event; it’s an attitude. It looks different for everyone. The central theme of this series centers on evangelism motivated by the need to connect through hospitality. It is about meeting people where they are and inviting them into your life to come to the table.

This sermon series is about how Jesus often used meals to care for people, to connect with people, to listen to them, to serve them, and ultimately, to be in a relationship with them. Jesus uses meals as relationship equalizers and relationship accelerators. We want to be like Jesus. We want to reach out to the people we meet at work, at school, at the gym, at the ballpark, and in our neighborhoods. We want to invite them to come to the table… the table at the coffee shop… at the restaurant… in the break room… and, most importantly, to the table in our own home. At the table is where we can build friendships and accelerate relationships. It’s where we can turn everyday conversations into gospel conversations.

We are asking Family Church people to make it a point this Fall to invite at least one person to our table. We’re challenging you to pray for that one person you know who needs Jesus. Identify your one. Initiate a social event with your one. Invite your one to your home for a meal. Have a gospel conversation with your one. Invite your one to church. Be intentional about building at least one relationship because you care and because you want to connect that person to Jesus. Let’s come to the table and bring one to the table.

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DateScriptureBig Idea
09/08/19Mark 6:30-44Care
09/15/19Matthew 9:9-13Connect
09/22/19Luke 10:38-42Listen & Learn
09/29/19John 13:1-20Serve & Share

Summer On The Mount


Summer on the Mount

June 2, 2019 – August 25, 2019

This summer we are going to go through the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5-7). We are calling it our Summer on the Mount. This one sermon contains the upside-down teachings of Jesus. This is Jesus’s longest recorded sermon and scholars think that it was His go-to sermon. He preached it repeatedly in different places and at different times. In it, Jesus takes all the teaching of the Old Testament and reimagines and reinterprets it framing it into what Matthew calls the “kingdom of heaven.” He starts by saying that the way up is down. He says believers are most satisfied when we are poor, sad, meek, hungry and persecuted for His name sake. Jesus also turns religion upside down. Religious people always think that God wants them to follow all the rules and look really good on the outside. They are always more concerned about outward appearances. Jesus says it is less about what we do on the outside and more about what is going on in the inside. Jesus turns all of our common-sense ways of living upside down. It is counterintuitive and countercultural living. It is influence, wealth, security, intolerance, entitlement and self-image all turned upside down. This sermon summarizes all the ways Jesus wants us to live out kingdom values here on earth. He says it best in His model prayer – “Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven” (Matt. 6:10). Believers in Jesus are here on this earth to do what Jesus would do if He were physically present. We are kingdom outposts in the places we live, work and play. We are called to be salt and light. We are called to let our shine before others so that they can see what God is really like. By opening up to others, we can help others open up to God. This is what our Summer on the Mount is all about.

Key resources:

  • The Message of the Sermon on the Mount by John Stott
  • Sermon the Mount: Story of God Commentary by Scot McKnight
  • Studies in the Sermon on the Mount by MLJ
  • Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount by DA Carson
  • The Divine Conspiracy by Dallas Willard
  • The Sermon on the Mount & Human Flourishing by Jonathan Pennington
  • Matthew: A Commentary by Frederick Dale Bruner

Other resources for the church:

  • Life in the Spirit by Mark Sayers
  • Crucifying Morality by RW Glenn

DateScriptureBig Idea
06/02/19Matthew 5:1-12Happiness turned upside down
06/09/19 Matthew 5:17-30; 33- 48Religion turned upside down
06/23/19Matthew 5:31-32Vows turned upside down
06/30/19Matthew 6:1-18Godliness turned upside down
07/07/19Matthew 6:19-24Wealth turned upside down
07/14/19Matthew 6:25-34Security turned upside down
07/21/19Matthew 7:1-6Intolerance turned upside down
07/28/19Matthew 7:7-11Prayer turned upside down
08/04/19Matthew 7:12-14Entitlement turned upside down
08/11/19Matthew 7:15-20Religious leadership turned upside down
08/18/19Matthew 7:21-23Image turned upside down
08/25/19Matthew 7:24-27Trouble turned upside down

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